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Child-Friendly Internet     [Report Abuse]   

Posted by: lostchild     
When a child reaches the age when they can use the Internet the occasion is automatically combined with the fear of what they might find. There is no central control that will prevent them from finding adult material or even games and entertainment that will keep them transfixed for hours. It is very important to supervise very young children and always check the parental controls to ensure that any precautions that can be taken are.
 
Various software is available that will automatically impose individualized parental settings. Operating systems on the computer will also have their own parental controls so it depends what level of control is needed. If downloading a separate piece of software ensure that background checks and reviews have been studied.
Once the parental controls are in place they take a certain amount of upkeep to ensure that there is not a loophole. There are many ways to bypass parental controls and it is more than likely that when a child reaches a certain age they will either know or be able to find out how to get around them. If the parental controls are located in the operating system then booting up the computer and using a different operating system can bypass the restrictions. Another method is to use an external server to bypass the system's controls. This can be avoided by blocking access to external servers.
Nowadays the Internet can be accessed from many different types of technology, including smart phone and iPads. If the child has a smart phone it is even harder to maintain control over what they can access. It may not even be intentional but it is very easy to accidentally click a link that will show adult advertisements, or to be directed to an adult site by a search engine. It is advisable to teach children how to use the Internet so that they know what to avoid and how to avoid it.

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Home Alone: UK Laws     [Report Abuse]   

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Although it may not be ideal, sometimes it is necessary to leave a child at home on their own. In this situation it is difficult to know when it is safe to do so and when it is dangerous. Everyone has seen the painful scene in Home Alone when Kevin comes down to an empty house on Christmas Day, after spending the week fighting off armed thieves. It is hardly a realistic portrayal, but there are certainly elements of truth in there. There may be unseen dangers just waiting around the corner and if a child is not used to being alone it can be quite traumatic.
According to the law there is no set minimum age when a child can be left at home alone. There is, however, a rule that a child should never be left alone if he or she is at risk. This includes risk of harm from others or from themselves. The Children and Young Person's Act states that if children are left ‘in a manner likely to cause unnecessary suffering or injury to health' it can lead to prosecution.
When considering leaving a child alone, take into account how long they will potentially be left for. If it is for a short amount of time and the child is mature enough to act responsibly then it is usually safe to leave them on their own. If it is for a considerable amount of time it is advisable to find a child minder or ask a neighbor to check in on them and keep an eye out.
The NSPCC advises that very young children and babies should never be left on their own. They also suggest that children under the age of 12 are rarely mature enough to be left alone and those under 16 may be more mature but should not be left alone overnight.

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Tips for the Fussy Eater     [Report Abuse]   

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The parents of fussy eaters will be happy to know that they are in good company; nearly every family has at least one fussy eater. The parental concerns regarding a fussy eater are generally twofold: the child's nutrition, and the kind of habits the child is forming. The good news is that overall, even fussy eaters are able to fare well nutritionally, and, eventually even the most particular of eaters seem to come around.Image By: ...love Maegan
Here are a few tips to arm you while you are in the meal time trenches with your little one:
1. Do not make it a power struggle. 
Granted, this is challenging. But, if you make this a power issue with bribes, ultimatums, and frustration, the child will gain control over the situation. They will also begin to build negative associations with meal time. Instead, use praise as a motivator, keep offering good choices, and modelling the desired behaviour.
2. Offer limited choices
A great desire for all children is to be able to control their environment. Sometimes offering a choice where each option is acceptable can give your child the feeling that they have some power over the situation, without you having to surrender true control. Choices like, which colour bowl or cup, an apple or an orange, carrots or cucumber, etc. Offering these inconsequential choices can go a long way in easing the power struggle, especially if you proactively offer the choice, before the struggle even has a chance to begin.
3. Offer healthy choices with lots of variety
If you are concerned with your child's nutritional intake, be sure that every choice you offer is a healthy one. By limiting sweets and processed foods, and offering plenty of whole foods, you can be sure that whatever your child chooses to eat, they are getting something of value. Continue to introduce variety with vegetables and other foods; you never know when one will strike a responsive chord and become a favourite.

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Discipline Checklist     [Report Abuse]   

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Disciplining your children is both one of the most important and most difficult elements of child rearing you can face as a parent. On one hand you feel a duty to raise your child with the correct boundaries and moral ideas that make us fit and proper members of society and the human race in general. On the other it is sometimes hard to make your children understand the meaning of your actions, particularly when your actions risk making you unpopular with them. In order to help parents strike the right balance when they dole out discipline, here's a check list of things to run through in your head when you feel you need to take action.
Image By: GrotukFirst off, make sure you are not losing your temper. This is, of course, easier said than done, and it is often our first reaction to simply lose composure if a child is being naughty. All this does is show the child that you are as irrational as them – remember they are still learning about the concept of reason and right. Even if you think they are deliberately misbehaving you need to keep calm as much as possible.
Secondly, explain why what the child has done is wrong. It is not enough for them to feel bad – they must know why they should not behave that way. “Because I said so!” is not a good reason to give a developing brain as to why they should or should not do something. In fact it just makes them more likely to do the same thing when your back is turned.
Thirdly, be careful with both criticism and praise. Both of these things should be earned by a child in order to give them a proper balance in terms of right and wrong. Discipline is really all about just that – balance. A good, healthy, balanced child is also a happy one. Children who never get told off or criticised in their youth often turn into deeply unhappy adults, as their expectations are completely out of line with the reality of society.

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Benefits of Rewards Charts     [Report Abuse]   

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Studies on how to motivate people, from children to grownups, have consistently shown that praise and encouragement are the best motivators. The great thing about a rewards chart is that it gives on the spot recognition for good behaviour, as well as a visual aid (such as a sticker on the chart), helping them to visualise how their good behaviour has helped them progress toward a desired goal.
Reward charts help to teach the child good behaviour by offering a series of small rewards (stickers, spaces moved, etc) that move gradually towards something bigger. As the positive behaviour is reinforced through the recognition and encouragement, thImage By: lumaxarte behaviour becomes more habitual. 
One of the biggest benefits for parents using reward charts is that it helps to reduce nagging. The child definitely wants the reward, and therefore puts the effort into exhibiting the desired behaviour. With this system, the responsibility for earning the reward is completely on the child - which is a great way to help build their character. The satisfaction they receive through earning each sticker, and finally reaching their goal, goes a long way in boosting their confidence and preparing them for their next challenge.
There are many ways a reward chart can be used. Each child in a family can have their own chart (and even target different behaviours) or a group chart can be used with everyone's good behaviour contributing to reaching the end reward. A chart can run for a set period of time (i.e.: a week) or until a specified number of stickers are earned.
The end reward can be one of either the parent's or child's choosing. It ideally should be something that fosters family time together like a special outing, a storybook, or an activity that you both love.

Tags: Parenting, Children, Motivation, Praise, Rewards
  
Anger Control Tips      [Report Abuse]   

Posted by: lostchild     
As much as we might not want to admit it, every parent has moments when our temper gets the better of us. It's all too easy to start throwing a tantrum because our child is doing the same, but it's important to try and keep cool and remember that there are a number of factors contributing to our anger – whatever the situation.
One of the first tips for Image By: Marrz13controlling your anger is to ask yourself exactly what it is that you are angry about. Do you have some bad news you are dealing with? Are you dealing with some difficult marital issues? Are you not feeling well? Sometimes just the recognition that the cause of your anger is NOT your child can be enough to help you keep a lid on your emotions.
Sometimes you might need to give yourself a ‘time out'. Step out of the room for a moment to gain control of your anger or, if you can't do that, take a few deep cleansing breaths. It really does help. 
If you are angry or frustrated because of something your child has done wrong, try to convey your feelings in a patient and respectful tone. By using your words to express yourself, you are also teaching your child how to express their feelings. It is very important for a child to learn how to properly express negative emotions such as fear, frustration and disappointment. Always use respectful and positive language. Focus your disapproval on the behaviour, not the child.
Most importantly, if you ever do lose your nerve: apologise to your child. When a parent loses their temper with their child, the child's feelings will be hurt. Whether your child shows that hurt through crying, pulling back or lashing out, you can be sure that they are hurting. A genuine apology will help to restore your relationship and convey your deep affection to your child.

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Remaining Calm      [Report Abuse]   

Posted by: lostchild     
Everybody at one point gets angry. It is only normal as we are all human. Children sometimes annoy their parents so much that they cannot control themselves. Sometimes the child does not do it intentionally. The way you as a parent deal with your anger is very important. Some people when they are angry beat their children so hard that they end up regretting. Sometimes we say things that are so harmful without even realising it. This may have a negative effect on the children that is why it is very important for every parent to learn how to control their anger.
First you should learn that never act in anger. When the child makes you very angry, if you take a cane and start beating them up in the name of discipline this is one of the worst things you can do. This type of discipline is not positive and may sometimes cause serious injuries the child.This is very possible because as you beat up your son or daughter, anger is controlling you therefore you may not realize that you are over doing it. You should never discipline your child under the influence of anger. One is always advised to wait until you have cooled down.Image By: srqpix
Many parents bring anger to their kids even if they are not the cause. For example, your work mate stepped on your toe at your workplace or your boss has annoyed you. You should not let your kid suffer for that. Let your work issues remain at work. When you come home be ready to interact with your children as a parent not as a secretary who has been fired. You should not also let your personal issues affect you so much to the extent of letting them out on your kids. You should remember that kids are very delicate and they never forget easily. You should also never forget that it is very easy to damage a kid's self esteem therefore take precaution when dealing with anger.
Finally, you should also learn to understand your kids. Respect their interests to avoid getting angry. Let your intentions be clear to the kid because they too understand.

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Understanding Child Abuse     [Report Abuse]   

Posted by: lostchild     
As it has always been said, Children are a gift from God. As much as barren women are desperately longing to have a child of their own there are others who are taking advantage of them. Any mistreatment of a child be it physically, emotionally or socially is simply referred to as child abuse. However you should understand the difference between disciplining a child and abusing a child. Many have misunderstood these two different things as to some people they may appear similar. Child abuse is mistreating a child making them feel pain. Cases of child abuse have increased in the last decade therefore we should be at the look out to people abusing children and report the cases.
Did you know that you can cause emotional child abuse to your child? This is simply done by saying hurtful things to them making them feel worthless. Sometimes we do it out of anger and we hardly understand what we are saying. This kind of abuse damages the self esteem of that particular child making them to feel undeserving. This can even affect their social life and education as well. Parents should always be careful about what they tell their children. You should not let your anger control you and always learn how to deal with your child. Words can be really hurting so you should be careful not to damage your child's confidence.
The worst kind of abuse is sexual abuse. This is not only dangerous to children but also adults. Many cases of child rape have been reported as well as molestation. Rape is extremely traumatising and will always remain in the mind of the victim. Once you come across a sexually abused child, one is advised to report the case immediately to the police and seek medical attention. You should try and support that child emotionally and give them hope. Although it is not easy, the child may recover with time depending on the support you give them. Remember child abuse can lead to suicide therefore it is our responsibility to support such children and take necessary precaution in order to eradicate it.

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Single Parents     [Report Abuse]   

Posted by: lostchild     
Being a single parent is not an easy task in fact, it could be the hardest responsibility one can have in this life. Many of the single parents out there did not plan for it so when they find themselves in this situation it becomes really shocking. Bringing up a child to being a responsible adult can be really stressing especially when you are alone. The first and the most important step that you need to take is accepting the fact that it is your responsibility to bring up that child without your partner. Be it divorce that led to you becoming a single parent or a partner's rejection after getting pregnant should not affect you so much.
The next thing that you can do is devoting yourself to bringing up the child in the best manner possible. This means that you have to provide for that child's needs. You should be able to understand that with or without your partner's help, your kid has to eat, have shelter and have clothes above all things. I know this can be really hard especially if you do not have a stable job. Thanks to the government nowadays there are different organisations that give help to the single mothers. You can enroll to such charity organisations and get help.
Despite the fact that as a single parent you can be very busy at work, you need to create time for your child. Everybody wants to be understood and be appreciated. Spending time with your child creates a special bond between you and you get to understand each other. Always be attentive to listen to them. Especially if your marriage failed hence leading to your single parenthood. You need to help your child come to terms with whatever happened. Be sure that your child can become your best friend if only you learn to understand each other. As much as single parenthood is hard and stressing it can as well be enjoyable.

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Don't Bully the Bully     [Report Abuse]   

Posted by: lostchild     
Bullying is intentional tormenting of a child either physically, psychologically or verbally. It is a common phenomenon that children are bullied at school. The child who is being bullied often gets scared and develops a multifaceted personality. Every parent should teach his/her child as to how to deal with this situation. The children should know that they are no less than the one who is bullying them and that they should not be scared of that person. They should be repeatedly told that they should never become victims of such activities and report immediately, in case they are bullied.
You should teach your child to tell you about any bullying activity in school. You should be friendly with him/her. This will not only help you realise their problems but will also allow them to confront such situations. If your child tells you that he is being bullied then you should console him and offer comfort and support. You would obviously be upset about this but you have to act normal in front of your child. Sometimes, children are reluctant in notifying you because they feel embarrassed or ashamed that they are being bullied or worry about the fact that their parents would be disappointed with them.
Parents should praise the child for being brave enough to talk about the phenomenon. Remind him/her that he/she is not the only victim and there a lot of people who are bullied. Emphasize on the fact that it is the bully who is behaving badly and not your child. Let the child talk to person he is most comfortable with. This would help him speak freely without any hesitation.
Sometimes it's useful to contact the bully's parents so that they can warn their child to not continue with this horrible act. Teachers and counselors are the best people to contact in such situations. Train your child that if any such thing happens, he/she should immediately report to his parents and the teachers. Your role would not just be consoling your child but also taking action against the bully as he/she can bully other children as well.

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